The best advice I've ever been given fits on a sticky note.

Someone once asked me for the best advice I'd ever been given. I didn't have to think about it.

There are two. I used to have them on my wall.

Stick to the facts.

Practise measurement without judgement.

They were on the wall so I didn't get carried away. I'm human. I get triggered too.

When I notice it, I stop. I say to myself, "Oh, hold on, this is about me. This isn't about them."

Then I ask a few questions. Who am I really angry at? (Normally myself.) What am I actually frustrated at?

There's no energy in getting triggered. It costs you time you don't have.

Measurement without judgement means you look at the numbers and the hours. No verdict attached. That's what lets you make a decision.

Next time something gets under your skin, write down the facts. Only the facts. Then see how big it really is.